Chatting with the girl you like is a weakness of many boys. Chatting with ordinary female friends is okay, but once you start chatting with the girl you like, you always feel like you don’t know what to say. I am afraid that if I say too much, I will be wrong. This is actually normal.
If we say that the attraction between people depends first on appearance. Then, chatting is a process of quickly bringing two people closer to each other. So how to quickly win a girl’s heart through chatting? Just follow these few principles.
How to quickly win a girl’s heart through chatting?
1. Learn to find topic content
Learn from each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and cater to their interests. Even though it is a chat, it is still necessary to focus on 'attracting' first, and supplement it with foreshadowing.
For example, you can make an article based on the scene where you and the girl met.
For example, ‘Hello, I am also a classmate who has just studied marketing management. I was sorry to listen to the conversation between you and your friend just now. Are you interested in photography? (They have something in common)
Let’s add them.
I am the president of the photography club and I also run my own studio (I have the ability and expertise).
I usually do activities and so on, and everyone can learn and compete together~ (active and have strong social skills)’
Or, you have a girl’s WeChat account.
If you are classmates, then you can talk about the serious matters of study first.
Then slowly extend to hobbies.
If you are afraid of not letting go, find an opportunity for a few good friends to get together as a group.
After the event comes back, you can talk about the content of the event. This is a topic.
If you see her Moments, start with the comments and likes in the Moments.
Don’t click on every article, click on the ones that you think have topics to talk about and are extendable.
For example, a girl showed off XX snacks and she liked them very much.
You can send a private message and say, ‘I didn’t expect you also like to eat XX? Me too. When I was a child, I often disobeyed and ran to the school gate to buy something. ....'
From 'a single point of interest' to 'some fun little things you can share', to 'the past, childhood', the topics can be discussed in one go .
Properly expose your past positive self and interesting embarrassing stories, especially among peers, it is easy to find resonance.
Not only food, horoscopes, entertainment, the Internet, games, life, etc., you can talk about everything, as long as you have the goods. But remember to ‘cut’ the topic as an extension when chatting.
A simple undercut is a subdivision of a category.
For example, food - food - like the rice and taste there -Internet celebrity food - can you cook it yourself - do you want to learn - do you know delicious restaurants - things you liked when you were a child -...
The other way around is 'pushing up'. ‘Downcut’ and ‘upward push’ need to be mastered flexibly, that is, you can quickly establish a topic breakthrough.
2. Universal formula for chatting: small things (pictures) + association + feelings + (positive speculation)
This formula is very practical when chatting.
"When I just passed by the door of my house, I found that the leaves at the door were all yellow. They were very beautiful. Just like you mentioned to me last time, I immediately thought of you. Take a photo and send it to Look at it."
'The bread you recommended to me last time. I actually went to eat it. '(Having said this, leave half of it for her)
"How is it? Is it delicious?"
"...." (You can continue to expand the content here . )
Above, find the right opportunity to add flirting and a sense of humor. ’
This will help you distinguish yourself from other straight men who just chat and share their lives.
"So cute all day long...
How about it, do you look like you?"
The key to praise and appreciation in different ways is to reflect 'Details' are different from 'she is different', which makes girls feel that you are paying attention to and observing her from the bottom of your heart.
"You know? You look really good in a white dress."
"You are so special."
"You know? I It’s rare for girls to like drinking coffee with this flavor.”
Most girls feel sweet in their hearts after hearing this.
At the same time, you can ask girls for help and show vulnerability appropriately.
For example, ask her to teach her what she is good at and make her feel her own value and importance.
“How should I fill out the application form last time?”
3. Have a good sense of proportion , you can’t just kneel down and lick and agree
I strongly encourage boys to find opportunities to express their ideas when they boldly add their own ideas.
But there is a premise for this approach:
If the other party’s point of view is different from yours, you can’t say it to death, you must leave room for it. Let the other person feel that you are tolerant of different viewpoints and willing to listen patiently.
For example, when she may be angry or unhappy, you should first ‘unite the front with her’. Express comfort and understanding, and understand her grievances and difficulties. This is a kind of tenderness.
When she looks back and becomes more rational, avoid a blaming tone and sort out and analyze this for her rationally and calmly.The pros and cons of doing it (the key is to focus on her).
This will not only make girls feel that you are tolerant and gentle, but also make you feel rational and mature.
As long as you master the above chat formulas and methods flexibly and draw inferences from one example, it can actually easily help you get closer to each other quickly, and let the girls you like quickly see your excellence and connotation without being arrogant or arrogant.
At this time, you will find that chatting is not just about saying good morning and good night every day, chatting about three meals a day, etc., but it will directly increase the other person's good impression of you.
This is the essence of chatting and the key to interactive attraction.
