When many boys are chasing girls, they habitually lower their posture. They habitually cater to, please, and even kneel down to lick girls when chatting. But why do you have to lower your posture when you like someone? Well, doesn’t it feel good to be yourself? So the question is, how do you chat with a girl without kneeling and licking her?
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1. Lower your expectations
Why do you like someone?
Is this question simple? In fact, many people don’t even think about it.
Some people may say, if you have a reason to like someone, is it still called liking?
Of course. Even if you fall in love at first sight, you are attracted by appearance, whether it is height, appearance, temperament, voice, or conversation. Why do you automatically ignore these reasons?
In the final analysis, you can’t help but like it at the moment. Maybe it's just temporary enthusiasm and hormones.
So I hope you can lower your expectations when facing someone you like. What do you mean?
Don’t rush to lift others up so high and think so well. Even if it takes a thousand years, calm down first and understand it before talking.
Don’t even think that if you fall in love with someone at first sight, they must like you. Maybe they won’t notice you at all.
Before you are not sure how someone feels about you, treat them as friends first.
The advantage of this is that even if the other party is in a bad state one day and does not respond enthusiastically to you, we will not be too sad. After all, we just met, and they are just ordinary friends after all.
If you think about it this way, you will not have so much psychological pressure, and you will be able to be yourself more freely. This is when your charm can really come into play.
2. Set chat standards
Once many boys meet a girl they like, they want to wait 24 hours a day They pestered others to chat endlessly.
Do you think you can talk? Is there anything to talk about? Not really.
Most of them are just some casual talk. After all, you are new to the world. How in-depth can you talk?
Just "What do you like to do?" "You What do you like to eat?" "What have you been busy with recently?" A few lines of "Wannianian" can last for a month.
You are obviously not good at chatting, so why do you want to make this uncomfortable for yourself?
If you don’t know how to chat, let’s learn. Before you learn, let’s not chat with her every day.
To put it bluntly, chatting also requires certain standards. Are you tired of being pestered every day to talk about unproductive topics?
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If you are not a good talker, let me tell you, one efficient chat is better than many ineffective chats.
For example, you don’t have to chat with her every day, but instead chat with her three or four times a week;
Talk to her when you have something specific to do, instead of looking for someone to talk to when you have nothing to talk about;
When you can’t continue the conversation, end the topic as soon as possible to leave some room for the other person to think about it, instead of forcing the other person to end the topic on his own initiative and lose all good impressions of you.
Sometimes giving each other a little space can actually stimulate each other's curiosity.
3. Improve understanding
When you are not familiar with girls, do you feel restricted in talking about anything, for fear of being afraid? Did you say something wrong and make someone unhappy?
If you want to improve the efficiency of your chat, the first thing you need to do is to get to know the girl better.
For example, ask about her news with mutual friends; follow her social media accounts to understand her usual status; share opinion topics to understand her thoughts, the way she thinks about problems, and her attitude towards things, etc. wait.
Even including what kind of boys she likes, are you the type she likes?
If not, is it possible? How can she change her mind so that she can be attracted to her? What about attracting yourself?
If she happens to like you, wouldn't that be great? As long as they see each other in the eye, half the battle will be won.
4. Learn to extend the topic
When chatting with a girl you like, if you talk a few words about each topic There is nothing left to talk about, and if you keep thinking about finding new topics, you will probably run out of things to talk about soon.
But if you can keep chatting on a topic, you may be able to leave a deep impression on the other person, and at least you will feel like you are a good person to talk to.
So it is important to extend the topic. As for how to extend the topic, I won’t go into details here. Friends who want to know the specific method can add a free copy of "Chat Secrets".
Many times you feel awkward and have no topic. On the one hand, it is because you have not entered a comfortable chatting state, and on the other hand, your chatting ability needs to be improved.
As for the comfortable state, you need to slowly get in touch with each other, learn more about each other, set a scale in your own heart, find a chat standard that suits you, and then slowly grasp this balance. Improving chat skills is actually a long-term process.
When you have nothing to do, go to places where there are many girls. You can also make some friends of the opposite sex. Chat with them more and understand girls’ psychology and way of thinking, as well as what they are interested in. .
