Chatting with girls often ends in silence. The main reason is that there is no topic to talk about, so there are awkward conversations, household registration checks, and self-centered chatting. So how to find topics when chatting with girls?
1. Find topics through common points
Yes Go through her Moments, her signatures, her shared music, her WeChat avatar, etc. to find out.
For example, she is a fan of Jay Chou, and you also grew up listening to Jay Chou's music.
Here are a few tips:
a. At the beginning, set a limit.
Since the girl is not familiar with you when we first get acquainted, we should not put ourselves in a very intimate position at the beginning. We should first use "you" as the subject to expand the topic, and "I" As an auxiliary. (No matter who you are, you will pay more attention to topics related to yourself)
However, you must also "self-expose" appropriately. For example, "When I have free time, I usually like to travel. What do you like to do?"
b. As the relationship grows, When you are near, you can join "us" appropriately.
For example, in the early stage you can say "You also like to travel, and so do I!", and later you can say "What a coincidence, we both like to travel!"
c. Use Open with praise, intersperse with appreciation, and occasionally be a listener.
For example, she posted a selfie in her circle of friends.
You can comment: "This dress suits you very well!" or "You really can hold any style!"
Guide girls' emotional investment in the interaction and emotional interaction.
2. Find topics through several key points
a. Moments
For example, through a girl’s Moments, I found out that she is learning pottery recently.
You can say: "I think learning pottery can especially train people's patience, and I have been learning it recently."
Then use distributed thinking to guide the topic.
Ceramics - other hobbies, other things you want to try, etc.
Of course, we can also show high value through the circle of friends.
For example, send a photo of a kitten or puppy.
Text: I went to a friend’s house today and was besieged by his cats. I might have been a cat person in my previous life.
b. Delicious, fun, and beautiful.
When sharing this with her, you should follow the girl’s thinking pattern of “feeling + sharing”.
When sharing with her, you can emphasize the common ground between you and your recognition of her to mobilize her enthusiasm and guide her to open the topic.
As time goes by, the relationship between you will become closer easily.
For example: “I passed by the store you mentioned today and waited in a long line to buy the cake you mentioned. It was really delicious!”
