Many boys always blame their appearance for being single. If this is true, why are there so many ordinary-looking people accompanied by goddesses? In fact, as long as a person's emotional intelligence is high enough, even if his appearance is not good, If you can still attract girls, how can you improve your emotional intelligence? Below, the editor will share three training methods to improve your emotional intelligence to help you catch the girl you like.
1. Learn to recognize girls’ perspectives
Many boys have the attribute of being a bully. Wanting to win or lose no matter what happens, and this attribute is actually a sign of low emotional intelligence. If you chat with girls like this, it will easily arouse girls' resentment.
Therefore, if you want to catch the girl you like, you need to get rid of this aggressive attribute and learn to recognize the girl's point of view. As long as a girl's point of view is not wrong, you might as well agree with it. This means that you and her are of the same mind. After all, it is very happy for everyone to be understood and recognized by others.
2. Listen carefully to what girls say
Listening is also a manifestation of high emotional intelligence, and it is related to girls To chat to her liking, we need to find topics that interest her, understand her hobbies, likes and dislikes, and then use these to keep the content and direction of our chat to what she likes to hear. These are all things that need to be learned through listening. Completed.
However, many people are like this when chatting with girls. They just listen to what the girls say, without thinking that there is information that can be collected from these words. Then he turned around and realized that he needed this basic information, but he was too embarrassed to ask directly, and the girl wouldn't take the initiative to tell him, so he was confused. Especially some information girls feel that they have made it very obvious. For example, when you chat with her, she is always at work, but only every Monday she will tell you that she is shopping and eating with her best friends, which means that she is resting The time is Monday.
In the end, you asked her, "When are you going to have a rest? Let's make an appointment." This should make the girl sad. She feels that you are not interested in her at all and are just chatting with her. .
Therefore, when chatting with girls, you must be careful, listen carefully, and analyze carefully! Pay special attention to the girl's tone and attitude. This is an important source of information for us to judge her. For example, if you chat with a girl about a certain young male star, she will be very disdainful and say: "XXX? Is he just a young star with poor acting skills?" This shows that she is not a fictional girl who is a popular young star who is a mindless follower of popular fans. Then if you watch a movie with her and buy a movie starring this popular young star, not only will it not be considered as liking her, but you may even be despised by the girl.
3. Take care of girls’ feelings
Many boys’ thoughts when chatting with girls revolve around themselves. It’s probably like this: I think If you want to talk about something, then I will find a topic to talk about; if I can talk about this topic, I will keep talking here; if I don’t want to talk about this topic, or if I can’t take it, I will quickly change the topic. , it seems that there is nothing wrong with this approach.
I don’t know if you have noticed that when you chat with girls, they often have this reaction: after you change the topic, girls often can’t keep up, even though they were still talking just now. It's fine, but after changing the topic, she starts to deal with you with "uh-oh". Many people can't figure out why, and they probably attribute it to the girl not wanting to talk to them. In fact, that's not the case at all.
The real reason is this: Although you don’t want to talk anymore, the girl still wants to talk. Maybe she is getting excited about the conversation, and at this time you cut off the topic abruptly and go talk about something else. This is quite embarrassing for a girl, and she is dragged into a new topic by you. Sometimes the girl doesn’t realize what you are talking about, so she looks confused. If the topic has not ended and it has not become awkward, there is no need to change the topic. You also have to pay attention to your words and emotions. If the girl is clearly enjoying the conversation, there is no need to change the topic. Sometimes our topic needs to be about girls. Focus on it, find topics she likes to talk about, and talk in depth about the topics she wants to talk about.
