During the Q&A in the group two days ago, many people were asking about the issue of resonance when chatting with girls. It seems that many people still don’t know how to solve the problem of resonance when chatting with girls. Let’s take a look below.
Today I’m going to talk about how to resonate emotionally with a girl, to help you quickly open her heart and enter her inner world. Emotional resonance is divided into shared experiences and shared emotions.
The following are 5 ways to share emotional resonance and make girls feel that it is too late to meet you
1. Talk more about emotional topics
For example, celebrity gossip, food, music, travel, movies, emotional experiences, etc. are all good, but be careful to talk more about feelings. If you talk about music, don’t talk about music genres. , music type, etc., but talk about your feelings about the music and what you think of after listening to it, so that you will have emotional resonance.
2. Don’t comment on her
If a girl quarrels with a friend, many people’s first reaction is to comment and give advice. In fact, girls understand what you said, she just If you are in a bad mood and want to find someone to vent your complaints to, you just need to agree with her, listen patiently to what she has to say, and then talk about your own similar experiences.
3. Discover commonalities
Introduce the topic to an area you are familiar with. For example, when girls talk about travel, you happen to have been there and have deep feelings about it, such as Jiuzhaigou Valley. You can direct the topic to Jiuzhaigou. Your travel process, experience and personal feelings can easily resonate with you.
4. Seek common ground while reserving differences
The same experience will produce the same emotional experience, or it may produce different emotional experiences. If the situation is different, you should keep your experiences and emotions in the same situation, avoid those parts that are too different, agree with the girl and respect the girl's feelings, and cannot blindly deny her feelings or even argue with her.
5. Share your own embarrassing things
Embarrassing things are more likely to resonate with each other, because most happy things are the same, while most embarrassing things are different and more unique. , the degree of resonance is also stronger.
For example, if a girl encounters something particularly embarrassing, you can tell her something even more embarrassing. This will allow her to identify more and feel that there are people in the world who are as unfortunate as me, and that she is not so lonely. Embarrassing things are her own private experiences, and it can bring us closer to each other.
When she shares embarrassing stories with you, she will subconsciously no longer treat you as an outsider. Girls will also be more likely to be moved by your sincerity and confidence because of your sharing, and they must resonate during the chat. , girls will be able to accept you better, and you will have deeper interactions.
There is a rule for chasing girls, called "emotional flow".
Girls’ emotions always flow towards, the boy who "led her".
Just like water flowing downwards, there are laws for the generation of love.
Why does a girl’s emotions tend to be inclined towards the boy who “leads her”?
This is a human trait: trust and expectation in capable people.
For example, in TV dramas, for those heroes who save the world, people will worship them, send them blessings, and cheer for them. These are all active emotional flows.
So, in the process of chasing girls, boys should learn to lead girls and make her feel that you are a capable person.
I will give you an example to help you understand better.
Girl: I just had an argument with my parents and I feel very depressed.
Boys: Everyone has his own temperament, and it is normal to have conflicts occasionally, but as long as there is love, each other will be soft and warm.
In relationships, the so-called "capable person" is to act as a "guide", trying to stand at a higher perspective than her and lead her into a higher situation.
Only when you have a correct direction in chasing girls can you gain happiness. Only when you systematically learn the skills and methods of chasing girls will you suddenly become enlightened about "chasing girls".
When you encounter problems such as chatting with girls and resonating with them, you don’t have to worry. Just follow the steps above.
