Recently, I had a conversation with friends about the topic of dating, and I found that everyone has their own confusions and insights. Women often struggle with how to choose the right person, while men are pondering how to take the initiative. Today, I will share my own experiences and some comments from netizens to discuss this topic.
Let's start with the women's side. I've noticed that many women fall into a common misconception when it comes to dating: they place too much emphasis on looks. Honestly, I used to be a "face control" person too, but later I realized that looks really can't sustain a relationship. Character is the most important thing. As the netizen "Salty Fish Turns Over One Two Three" said, making good money is the real deal. But I think, besides money, the most important thing is the other person's character and personality.
Another point for women to note is not to love too fully. Leave some room for yourself and give the other person some space. I have a friend who treated her partner as her entire world, and after the breakup, she was completely devastated. Therefore, maintaining independence and selfhood in a relationship is crucial.
Now, let"s talk about the men's side. Men often struggle with how to take the initiative. Actually, taking the initiative doesn't mean being a "simp." As the netizen "S Azure Star Sea" said, not being a simp and not actively pursuing women, and preferring to never marry if it's not suitable. I think this makes a lot of sense. Take the initiative, but do it with dignity, and don't lose yourself just to chase a woman.
Another point for men is to learn how to create small surprises. It doesn"t have to cost a lot of money, but it should be thoughtful. For example, remember her birthday, give her a small gift, or cook her a bowl of noodles when she's tired. These small details can often touch a woman's heart.
Finally, I want to say that dating is a two-person affair, and it requires effort from both sides. Women should choose carefully, and men should take the initiative, but the most important thing is that both parties should treat each other sincerely. As the netizen "Unique Devil Muscle Man" said, being honest with each other is the key.
In conclusion, there is no fixed formula for dating, and everyone has their own way. I hope my sharing can give you some inspiration, and I hope everyone can find their own happiness.
