I have repeatedly emphasized that communication is very important when two people get along. Timely communication can help us avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles, so don’t keep silent. Today we will take a look at the types of communication. , I summarized 5 communication types.
5 communication types:
Ingratiating, avoidant, super-rational, accusatory, consistent sex.
It can be said that these five communication types summarize all communication methods. A certain communication type can even describe a person's personality. Zhang San likes to please, while Li Si loves to blame.
Use an example to introduce these five types of communication:
If your girlfriend has a conflict with you, what will happen to the five types of girlfriends?
[Pleasing type]
Girlfriends will ignore their own feelings, give in, and suppress their needs.
Subconscious core:
As long as I sacrifice myself to satisfy you, you can care about me.
Advantages: Affinity, know how to accept softness, and flexibility.
Disadvantages: Ignoring one's own feelings and abandoning one's own interests.
【Accusation type】
Girlfriends will ignore each other's feelings and just blame each other.
Subconscious core:
As long as I am stronger than you, you can care about me.
Advantages: Leadership, strength, and self-defense.
Disadvantages: Ignoring other people’s feelings and creating conflicts.
[Super rational type]
Girlfriends will ignore the feelings of both parties and just talk about things and reason.
Subconscious core:
As long as I am more correct than you, you can care about me.
Advantages: Brainy, knowledgeable, and logical.
Disadvantages: Ignoring people’s feelings and reasoning is more important than people.
[Avoidant type]
Girlfriends will not ignore the feelings of both parties, but they will ignore the matter, avoid the conflict, interrupt or change the topic, and do not want to face it.
Subconscious core:
As long as you don’t face the problem, the problem does not exist.
Advantages: A way to save energy and protect yourself.
Disadvantages: Things cannot be resolved.
【Consistency】
The girlfriend not only takes care of the feelings of both parties, but also discusses and resolves conflicts with her husband on this basis.
Subconscious core:
Both you and I are important, and things are also important.
Advantages: The most perfect way of communication.
Disadvantages: There is a lot to consider, and reaching this level requires practice.
How do you think about the 5 types of communication?
1. Everyone has a certain communication posture that they are most accustomed to, but sometimes, he will also use other ones.
2. Each is a resource, and it is best to use the five methods flexibly. For example, sometimes it is suitable to please and sometimes to blame.
3. Consistency is best in intimate relationships.
4. Every communication posture is learned in the family of origin. For example, if pleasing someone once brought him satisfaction, he will become accustomed to pleasing someone.
5.
Your partner's certain communication gestures annoy you, so you can be more tolerant. The reason why she sticks to this one is because this is the only communication posture that is safe for her. That was a better way to survive when she was a child.