Because men and women think differently, some words that boys think are normal during chatting are very offensive to women in the eyes of girls, such as the following three sentences:
1. "Oh"
What kind of communication is the most tiring? What is the most taboo in relationships?
These two questions The answer is always the same: perfunctory.
For example, the word "oh" is the old word "hehe" and now "oh". The lethality of this word is definitely no less than "hehe".
It represents perfunctory and careless, and it also means having nothing to say.
For example, a girl comes to you to talk or discuss something. She says a lot, but in the end you only have one word to reply to her. Maybe you didn't want to deal with her, but you just couldn't think of what to say, so you had no choice but to say: "Oh." But when a girl hears this, she will feel that you don't want to hear her say this, you don't want to chat with her, and she will feel chilled in her heart.
If you often communicate with the girl you like in this way, it won’t take long for her to be disappointed and no longer want to take the initiative. Eventually, she will gradually alienate you, and the relationship will fade away. .
2. "If you think this way, there is nothing I can do about it"
As long as we are chatting, there will be disagreements. Regardless of whether she is someone you like or not, what should you do at this time? If no one is convinced, you will usually have to argue. However, arguing is not the worst thing. When you argue, it also means that you are willing to communicate with the other party. The really scary thing is that some people choose to avoid it and don't even bother to explain it after a disagreement occurs.
For example:
Boy 1 made an appointment with a girl to meet at 12 noon, but he was late and did not explain the reason. The girl was a little angry: "I don't like people who do things without reason. I'm late. If you're stuck in traffic, you can tell me and I won't think anything of it, but if you don't say anything, don't you disrespect me?"
The boy just said: "I don't think so if you think so. There is a way."
In fact, he just misestimated the time when he was packing up at home, so he was unable to keep the appointment in time.
This brother felt that this reason was really hard to come up with. In addition, he had some anxiety about being late and felt a little irritable, so he simply didn't bother to explain. Then the girl was a little angry because of the boy's lateness. When she saw the boy's attitude, she turned around and left without saying anything, and the relationship naturally collapsed.
Boy 2, when eating hot pot with a girl, forgot that girls don’t like the taste of mutton, so he put some mutton in the pot. The girl joked with him: "Do you want to eat alone?" , I deliberately cooked the mutton.”
He thought the girl was questioning him, so he didn’t.She was so happy that she put down her chopsticks and said, "I can't help you if you think like this." The girl was furious as soon as she said this, and the good date ended on bad terms.
A few words reflect the boy’s impatience and avoidance mentality. This is a very negative feedback in relationships.
The termination of a relationship is often not due to mutual dislike, but rather due to misunderstandings caused by a failed communication.
Whether it’s being late or doing something wrong, a girl doesn’t necessarily mean she’s really angry. If she’s really angry, she doesn’t necessarily mean to blame us. Sometimes a simple explanation or apology can do the trick. Eliminate misunderstandings.
3. “It’s all my fault, right?”
For example, boys want to watch Avengers 4 At the premiere, I made an appointment with the girl I liked. It was already 12:30 after watching the movie. Unexpectedly, there was a sudden heavy rain, so we had to wait until 2 o'clock to take a taxi home. The girl said a little aggrievedly: "I'm afraid I will be late for work tomorrow."
Boy: "I didn't expect the weather to be like this. I will never go out to watch movies in the middle of the night again."
Girl: "We shouldn't have come to catch the premiere."
The boy became impatient: "Okay, it's all my fault."
This sentence seems to be taking the blame, but in fact it is out of anger, and at the same time, it sets up an iron wall to block the other party's other All the words were stuck in her mouth.
Often when a girl hears this sentence from you, even if she is not angry, she will become angry because of this sentence, and the anger that was about to dissipate will be rekindled.
If you can talk nicely, say this to her: "Afraid of being spoiled by those bitches in the company, understand the pain of die-hard Marvel fans. If you are late and are fined, I will guarantee you next week." Takeaway!"
Then this girl will definitely turn her worries into joy, and realize that she shouldn't complain like this.
It’s not easy to like someone, and it’s even harder to make that person like you too. Therefore, when chatting with the person you like, you still need to be more attentive, more sincere, and more Only by understanding each other can a relationship go smoothly.
