When you first get to know a girl, they tend to act aloof and reply very coldly or even not reply at all. In this case, let alone getting the other person interested, many boys will not even talk about it. Don't even know. Below, the editor will teach you how to chat with a girl you just met so that she can be interested in you?
1. The frequency of chatting should not be too frequent
No matter how we meet the girl, as long as we have just met, we must not be too eager and frequent to chat with the other party, no matter what we have in mind If you want to say hello to the other person, you should restrain yourself and wait for about an hour before taking the initiative to say hello.
If we are too eager to chat with the other party, it will only show that we care about getting to know her, expose our sense of need, and reduce our new attraction.
2. If you don’t reply to one, don’t send a second one
When we are chatting with girls, if If you send a message and she doesn’t reply, then don’t send a second message. The correct way is to find something to do while waiting for the girl to reply. It is best to forget that you have sent this message, so that it will not appear You are a man who has nothing to do, a man who just hangs around her every day.
3. Seize the opportunity to upgrade the relationship
We have always said that when chasing girls, you need to control your sense of need. Many boys also understand this truth, but they don’t know how to control it. They often go to the other extreme, that is, no matter whether the girl responds well or badly, they are always controlling their sense of need, because they themselves do not dare to escalate the relationship, so they use "control" Sense of need” to rationalize oneself and not escalate the relationship.
What is an upgraded relationship? When the conversation is almost over, you have to talk about gender issues, what kind of boys she hates, what kind of boys she likes, and when the conversation is almost done, you can no longer call her by name, what a disciple, girl. , Silly girl, stupid girl has to improve.
Some boys interpret the concept of "honest man" vividly. They chat every day, whether they have eaten or slept, what I did at work, and what I did. They also talk about topics that are purely between friends. Thinking you have control over your sense of need.
If this continues, there will be a situation like "We started chatting well, but then gradually ignored me." Such a boy will also say, "I didn't do anything wrong. I'm very cautious." "It's just because I didn't do anything that I got cold, brother.
In the end, this will only close the relationship card, because it is impossible for girls to take the initiative to upgrade the relationship. This matter must be done by men. If you don't come, you will be useless to girls. If you miss the opportunity to upgrade your relationship, your relationship will not be far away.
4. Don’t reveal yourself too early
When chatting with a girl you just met, many boys want to win over her If you trust someone, you will often reveal all your information prematurely, resulting in a loss of mystery, making girls no longer curious about you, and then losing attraction.
When chatting with a girl you just met, you need to know how to play hard to get.
Just like the ending of a TV series, it must leave a suspense, so that you will stay in front of the TV on time tomorrow, waiting for the beginning that you have longed for. The same goes for chatting with girls.
If you find that you and her are about to chat more and more, you must not talk until there is no topic. Be sure to stop at the point of excitement. You can use the excuse to say, "I still have some work to do here, I will talk about it later." "Okay?" "Although I really want to talk to you, but I have to get up early tomorrow. I'm really sorry. Let's talk about it tomorrow." Give a reasonable reason to leave so as not to disturb the girl's interest.
At this time, girls will be curious about your unfinished topics. She will rationalize this curiosity as "interested in you."
5. Exchange a secret with a girl
After opening the topic with a girl we just met, we You can tell her a little secret during the chat and hope she won't tell anyone else, and I would say she is the only one who knows about it.
This secret can be any secret. For example, you have liked your junior high school teacher, or you have been particularly afraid of dogs since you were a child. As long as the secret has a certain story and is a little unusual, girls will Will be more curious about you.
You and she hold this secret together. This feeling is irreplaceable. This is called "collusion". That's what makes her interested in you.